Friendship Storms

The Pain And Why You Can't Fix It

You’ve probably thought:

• “If I pull her out of that school, maybe it’ll get better.”

• “If we keep her close in youth group, maybe she’ll avoid it.”

• “If we homeschool, maybe we’ll skip the mean girl drama altogether.”

But it is everywhere.

Public school and private school, youth groups, teams, even the neighborhood. Because it’s not about where she is. It’s about who she’s becoming.

Girls will test power, belonging, and identity until they learn the skills to handle it differently. And those skills? Nobody is teaching them because most people really do not know what to do.

Shielding doesn't fix it, but growing her will.

Why Quick Fixes Don’t Work

Moms ask me this every day. And here’s the reality:
⭐️ One “perfect” phrase won’t fix it.
⭐️ One magic script won’t give her confidence.
⭐️ One pep talk won’t stop the tears.

Confidence isn’t said. It’s built.
Resilience isn’t taught in one moment. It’s formed over time.

That’s why I don’t give you a band-aid. I give you the blueprint.

What Can Change

Knowing her values.
Improving communication.
Setting boundaries — even when the storms hit.

That’s where you come in.

Because the storm isn’t about having the “right” thing to say in the moment. 

It’s about building before, during, and after.

That’s the work. And that’s exactly what you will learn to do together inside Friendship Storms.

Inside Friendship Storms: A Mom Session

Here’s what you’ll walk away with:

✔ The 3 Choices Framework: The go-to tool that takes the panic out of the moment and puts logic back in. It teaches YOU BOTH to pause, plan, and think before reacting, and you’ll use it everywhere: school, sports, even into her 20s.

✔ Teaching Through the Group Chat: How to turn the chaos of pings, posts, and gossip into lessons on tone, boundaries, and texting etiquette that will carry her way past middle school.

✔ Social Mistakes = Life Lessons: How to use rejection, exclusion, and drama as teachable moments that build resilience, self-awareness, and grit—so she bounces back stronger every time.

💬 Real tween scenarios (cliques, lunch tables, rejection, group chats)

✔ A Downloadable Slide Deck
Your cheat sheet to keep these tools handy.

✔ Lifetime Replay Access
Because friendship storms aren’t a one-time event—they keep coming.

✨ Confidence + Resilience That Lasts: This repetitive process is not a quick fix, but lifelong skills to help her find her voice, stand tall, and navigate storms long after middle school.

Why Me?

I’m Nik Bowers, former middle school principal, educator, and executive function coach. I’ve spent 20+ years walking with moms and girls through the mess of gossip, exclusion, and rejection at all ages.

I’ve lived it at home too. My two daughters faced the bullying, the left-out, the sting of rejection.

I know the skills it takes to grow through and rise from it. I’ve seen it not just with my girls, but over decades with others. 

I will help you grow her to the other side: when they’re not scrambling in high school, when their voice and their logic finally stand strong.